For the last little while, I've been feeling stuck. Have you experienced that before? That feeling like you can't seem to connect your energy with real movement towards your desires/goals? I have the ingredients all ready to get moving yet it feels like the paddle isn't connected to the mixer. I'm feeling so overwhelmed with thoughts and emotions, I'm not even sure what to do next; I'm beyond frustrated and totally over it. After some reflection, I've began to wonder; am I really stuck or I'm actually being nudged towards the negative perceptions by that sneaky inner critic. The mean girl soundtrack who loves to "should" all over my pla
I am constantly dreaming of all the opportunities available to me, wondering how I can fit each of them into my life. I am a multi-passionate person. This means my brain looks like a web browser, 50 open tabs, multiple topics. Once I get an idea, I run away with it until the next big idea comes. Most of the time, these ideas never come to life, but I love the possibility of them and what they could bring to my life if I committed to them. This bottled up energy I'm holding on to is beginning to make me want to shift these possibilities from the what if to the hell yes! I just need to get that negative hum to quiet down.
Here's the other thing about me, I want to quantum leap into everything I do. If I've thought or dreamt it for myself, then POOF…it should appear immediately. I know it's not realistic, but I just want to get living my most authentic life as soon as possible. Hence why I feel like I'm spinning my tires all the time. I just want to race to the finish because I've decided that the finish line is where my happiness lies. Secret is, SURPRISE, "Happiness is already here in the climb" as Miley Cyrus once sang. This isn't anything new for me to learn but, damn is it hard to keep focus on it. Awareness of this fluctuating perspective is both beneficial and frustrating.
My mean girl soundtrack shifts in volume from time to time and it's easy to fall under its spell as I once let it rule my life. It's using an old, outdated narrative that I don’t want to subscribe to anymore, but it's so familiar it can be hard to fight against. The battle of perception has taken hold and I'm now stuck in a tug of war between the old and new. It's time to pause, regain perspective and take back my power in this situation.
The more I've discussed this sense of being stuck with my family and my therapist, all those dreams and passions I'm moving towards are already on their way if not already taking form right in front of me. I'm actively taking steps today to make them a reality. I booked a course towards my next career move, I'm writing again, I'm reading through that stack of books on my night stand, meditating, yoga, and the list goes on. Where I'm getting stuck is in the comparison of where I "Think" I should be and where I am in reality. Like I said before, if I thought it, then it should happen with the snap of my fingers. My inner critic has me all tangled up, pushing me backwards into the negative. It's having me "should" all over my dreams again.
Comparison comes from a place of lack in which we try to measure our progress by. Lack does not drive us forward but causes us to only what we perceive to be out of our reach, not for us. It says "you aren't enough." This is powerful for all the wrong reasons. It robs us of our confidence and self-compassion. As Theodore Roosevelt once said "Comparison is the thief of joy."
Reflection has become my most used weapon in this war on negative perspectives. Setting aside actual time to reflect on my day, week or month can help me see what I've truly accomplished. I frequently fall back into putting on my blinders, only seeing those items I have yet to complete; the goals I've yet to fulfill. Although it may seem silly to celebrate those small accomplishments, they all add up to the bigger outcome I'm working to achieve. Those little wins keep the fuel on the fire of my what ifs becoming real. Although it's not always a sprint forward, it's all forward movement in the right direction. I need to celebrate all of it. It's time to stop waiting for the final result.
Anytime I honour my truth is a reason to rejoice. The same goes for you too! Shift that mindset to abundance and enoughness and you'll be amazed at how you suddenly see yourself and your daily accomplishments.
Perspective is vital to success, happiness and freedom. By taking a quick inventory of our goals and what we currently have on the go, a revitalizing sense of excitement bubbles up and brings with it actual physical movement. I've begun setting aside time each week to reflect, celebrate and plan for the upcoming week. That stuck feeling has subsided, the weight has been lifted; I feel aligned and in control again.
Its okay to get down and to feel the entire rainbow of feelings coming up for you. In my opinion, its integral to our evolution towards honouring our whole selves. Once you tell that mean girl to hit the road, perspectives shift and the sun shines again.
Take a moment today to remind yourself of how amazing you already are. You do a lot each day for yourself and others, make sure you celebrate those things. There is no size requirement on how big or mundane a task is before you recognize it.
I see you
I love you
Xo Dee
P.S If you're wondering about my mean girl sound track, check out the blog I wrote about her...she can be such a drag. https://www.maplemindset.ca/post/manifest-your-soundtrack
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